If you are worried about the message that you kid gets from a coach. Then maybe you should become involved yourself.

All sports that my kids have done over the years are run by volunteers who all are doing the best that they can. Some are better than others.

My kids have all benefitted from their involvement in sport. Especially my girls.

If you don't like the direction your kid's team or sport is going then get off of your butt, quit complaining, get involved and make it better.